Always something to keep in mind is… don’t allow yourself to have a bad day. save it for when you need it.
Of course you’re going to have bad days, we all do. we need this balance in our lives. Especially, after we have these days, we feel better… a little relieved. There are the “stressed school” days, “significant other is pissing you off” days, and of course, “PMSing” days. But the key is… dont let it get to you too much. Kinda like, “choose your battles” but instead, “choose your bad days”.
you know when you’re being overly touchy. so stop it. its very unbecoming.
take a deep breath and know that, just because you stubbed your toe when you got out of bed and there was no toothpaste left for the morning brush, doesn’t mean that the WHOLE day is going to be ruined.
I’m the type of person who always thinks, well, it could be worse, which is usually the last thing people want to hear. My mentality is… I slept in a nice bed, have clothes on back, and ate a good meal today. I lead a very good life... If more people could really start to think this way, life just becomes more enjoyable. It’s also quite infectious. Your good mood gets other people in a good mood. Also, living positively is not living ignorantly. There are “bad things” happening, but deal with them one issue at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself.
Yes, people have there ups and downs, happy and sad moments, and it’s all healthy. But its only healthy if there is a balance of these emotions. This is something I strive for in my life…
So I stubbed my toe when I got out of bed, I rubbed it. There was no toothpaste for the morning brush, I found mouthwash. Work it out… I’m not going to let these things get to me. And BAM… “Hey, its free coffee day at starbucks!”… The day starts to look up.
Constantly appreciate what you have because tomorrow you might not have it.
(Reblogged from youwillneverwastemytime)
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Tame and Wild....
What should I do about the wild and the tame?
The wild heart want to be free,
and the tame heart wants to come home.
I want to be held.
I dont want you to come too close.
I want you to schoop me up and bring me home at nights
I dont want to tell you where I am.
I want to keep a place among the rocks where no one can find me.
I want to be with you.
-Jeanette Winterson
The wild heart want to be free,
and the tame heart wants to come home.
I want to be held.
I dont want you to come too close.
I want you to schoop me up and bring me home at nights
I dont want to tell you where I am.
I want to keep a place among the rocks where no one can find me.
I want to be with you.
-Jeanette Winterson
Kisses
i think kissing is such a beautiful thing. There is something so powerful about a kiss. Not making out, not open mouth kissing, but just a kiss..a peck, or a smooch, hehe. where your lips are on another persons lips for a min or two, just sitting there as you two breath in and out, your heart sighing. The strong feeling inside filling you up, then when you pull back, you sigh because that kiss was so powerful, and it showed how much love you too have for each other. I love kissing more than anything, i never have to do any sexual thing again as long as i can kiss.I just think it is so passionate, so powerful. The thing about kissing is that everyone does it, whether its on the cheek, for head, chin, lips, eyes, skin, etc, everyone kisses. It’s something that connects people that really love each other. Making out is fun, but i prefer besos (kisses) i can’t explain how i feel about them, even trying to here doesn’t suffice to how i really feel about them. You kiss your little brothers fingers when they get “boo boo’s”, you kiss your mom or dad on the cheek, you kiss your sister or brother on the forehead in a way to say..things will be OK..i love you. It’s such a simple gesture..a kiss..but so powerful and amazing. ah sigh. love kisses. There is so many different ways to kiss someone.
(Reblogged from dandel10ness)
(Reblogged from dandel10ness)
GO AFTER HER. FUCK, DON'T SIT THERE AND WAIT FOR HER TO CALL, GO AFTER HER BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO. IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE, DON'T WAIT FOR THEM TO GIVE YOU A SIGN CAUSE IT MIGHT NEVER COME, DON'T LET PEOPLE HAPPEN TO YOU, DONT LET ME HAPPEN TO YOU, OR HER, SHE NOT A FUCKING TELEVISIONS SHOW OR A TORNADO. THERE ARE PEOPLE I MIGHT HAVE LOVED HAD THEN GOTTEN ON THE AIRPLANE OR RAN DOWN THE STREET AFTER ME OR CALLED ME UP DRUNK AT FOUR IN THE MORNING BECAUSE THE NEED TO TELL ME RIGHT NOW AND BECAUSE THEY CANNOT REGRET THIS AND I ALWAYS THOUGHT ID BE THE ONLY ONE DOING CRAZY THINGS FOR PEOPLE WHO WOULD NEVER GIVE ENOUGH OF A FUCK TO DO IT BACK OR TO ACT LIKE IDIOTS OR BE ENTIRELY VULNERABLE AND HONEST AND MAKING SOME FALL IN THE WITH YOU IS EASY AND FLYING 3000 MILES ON FOUR DAYS NOTICE BECAUSE YOU CAN'T JUST SIT THERE AND DO NOTHING AND BREATHE INTO THE TELEPHONES IS NOT EVERY ONE'S IDEA OF LOVE BUT IT IS THE WAY I CAN RECOGNISE IT BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I DO. GO SCREAM IT AND BE WITH HER IN MEANINGFUL WAYS BECAUSE THAT IS BEAUTIFUL AND THAT IS GENEROUS AND THAT IS WHAT LOVING SOMEONE IS, THAT IS RAW AND THAT IS UNGUARDED , AND THAT IS ALL THAT IS WORTH ANYTHING, REALLY.
May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art — write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.
Sunday, December 4, 2011
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Thank you!!!
You’re the only person with the ability to make me smile without even trying. I want you to know that I am so very grateful for you. I’m so grateful for all the wonderful memories we have shared: all the smiles and the laughters. You light up my world and show me things I never dreamed I’d see. Thank you for all that you do for me and all that you have given me. thank you for being you.
Help yourself! Your number one!!
When we begin to help ourselves first, though selfish it may feel, then we can begin to help others. We must first try to heal ourselves in order to realize that we are much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. It is only when we lose part of ourselves it is that we realize what we had. And then sometimes it is too late but that teaches us not to dwell on the past rather to learn from the situation and not have any regrets. Although many say ‘think with your head and not the heart,’ I choose to not listen and just follow my heart. That way no matter what the outcome I know I was true to myself, the other and the situation.
Everyone deserves to be happy
She’s the girl that believes that what comes around goes around. The one that hopes for a better day. The one that won’t give up on you. She’s the girl that’s unlike the rest. The one that spent her days smiling, and her nights crying. She’s the girl that would love to be loved. The one that looks so damn strong, but feels so weak. She’s the girl that picks herself up every time she falls. And she‘ll be okay. She really will. She’s tough…and She deserve to be happy.
Listen....
When I ask you to listen to me,
And you start giving me advice,
You have not done what I asked.
When I ask that you listen to me,
And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way,
You are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me,
And you feel you have to do something to solve my problems,
You have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen.
All that I ask is that you listen,
Not talk or do - just hear me.
When you do something for me
That I need to do for myself,
You contribute to my fear and feelings of inadequacy.
But when you accept as a simple fact
That I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational,
Then I can quit trying to convince you
And go about the business
Of understanding what’s behind my feelings.
So, please listen and just hear me
And, if you want to talk,
Wait a minute for your turn - and I’ll listen to you.
-from a tumbler account
And you start giving me advice,
You have not done what I asked.
When I ask that you listen to me,
And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way,
You are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me,
And you feel you have to do something to solve my problems,
You have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen.
All that I ask is that you listen,
Not talk or do - just hear me.
When you do something for me
That I need to do for myself,
You contribute to my fear and feelings of inadequacy.
But when you accept as a simple fact
That I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational,
Then I can quit trying to convince you
And go about the business
Of understanding what’s behind my feelings.
So, please listen and just hear me
And, if you want to talk,
Wait a minute for your turn - and I’ll listen to you.
-from a tumbler account
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Parents Test
HOW TO KNOW WHETHER OR NOT YOU ARE READY TO HAVE A BABY
MESS TEST
Smear peanut butter on the sofa and curtains. Now rub your hands in
the wet flower bed and rub on the walls.
Place a fish stick behind the couch and leave it there all summer.
Obtain a 55-gallon box of Legos. (If Legos are not available, you may
substitute roofing tacks or broken bottles.) Have a friend spread them
all over the house. Put on a blindfold. Try to walk to the bathroom or
kitchen. Do not scream (this could wake a child at night).
GROCERY STORE TEST
Borrow one or two small animals (goats are best) and take them with
you as you shop at the grocery store. Always keep them in sight and
pay for anything they eat or damage.
DRESSING TEST
Obtain one large, unhappy, live octopus. Stuff into a small net bag
making sure that all arms stay inside.
FEEDING TEST
Obtain a large plastic milk jug. Fill halfway with water. Suspend from
the ceiling with a stout cord. Start the jug swinging. Try to insert
spoonfuls of soggy cereal (such as Fruit Loops or Cheerios) into the
mouth of the jug while pretending to be an airplane. Now dump the
contents of the jug on the floor.
NIGHT TEST
Prepare by obtaining a small cloth bag and fill it with 8 to 12 pounds
of sand. Soak it thoroughly in water. At 8:00 PM begin to waltz and
hum with the bag until 9:00 PM. Lay down your bag and set your alarm
for 10:00 PM.Get up, pick up your bag, and sing every song you have
ever heard. Make up about a dozen more and sing these too until 4:00
AM. Set alarm for 5:00 AM. Get up and make breakfast. Keep this up
for 5 years. Look cheerful.
PHYSICAL TEST
Obtain a large bean-bag chair and attach it to the front of your
clothes. Leave it there for 9 months. Now remove 10% of the beans.
Purchase a newspaper. Go home and read it quietly for the last time.
FINAL ASSIGNMENT
Find a couple who already have a small child. Lecture them on how they
can improve their child's discipline, patience, tolerance, toilet
training, and table manners. Suggest many ways they can improve.
Emphasize to them that they should never allow their children to run
wild.
Enjoy this experience. It will be the last time you will have all the
answers.
Found this Online. Hope you got a little laugh
MESS TEST
Smear peanut butter on the sofa and curtains. Now rub your hands in
the wet flower bed and rub on the walls.
Place a fish stick behind the couch and leave it there all summer.
Obtain a 55-gallon box of Legos. (If Legos are not available, you may
substitute roofing tacks or broken bottles.) Have a friend spread them
all over the house. Put on a blindfold. Try to walk to the bathroom or
kitchen. Do not scream (this could wake a child at night).
GROCERY STORE TEST
Borrow one or two small animals (goats are best) and take them with
you as you shop at the grocery store. Always keep them in sight and
pay for anything they eat or damage.
DRESSING TEST
Obtain one large, unhappy, live octopus. Stuff into a small net bag
making sure that all arms stay inside.
FEEDING TEST
Obtain a large plastic milk jug. Fill halfway with water. Suspend from
the ceiling with a stout cord. Start the jug swinging. Try to insert
spoonfuls of soggy cereal (such as Fruit Loops or Cheerios) into the
mouth of the jug while pretending to be an airplane. Now dump the
contents of the jug on the floor.
NIGHT TEST
Prepare by obtaining a small cloth bag and fill it with 8 to 12 pounds
of sand. Soak it thoroughly in water. At 8:00 PM begin to waltz and
hum with the bag until 9:00 PM. Lay down your bag and set your alarm
for 10:00 PM.Get up, pick up your bag, and sing every song you have
ever heard. Make up about a dozen more and sing these too until 4:00
AM. Set alarm for 5:00 AM. Get up and make breakfast. Keep this up
for 5 years. Look cheerful.
PHYSICAL TEST
Obtain a large bean-bag chair and attach it to the front of your
clothes. Leave it there for 9 months. Now remove 10% of the beans.
Purchase a newspaper. Go home and read it quietly for the last time.
FINAL ASSIGNMENT
Find a couple who already have a small child. Lecture them on how they
can improve their child's discipline, patience, tolerance, toilet
training, and table manners. Suggest many ways they can improve.
Emphasize to them that they should never allow their children to run
wild.
Enjoy this experience. It will be the last time you will have all the
answers.
Found this Online. Hope you got a little laugh
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Roller Coasters and Relationships.
They are always slow at going up, Your getting to know each other but then they can drop to the near bottom right before your eyes. You take a quick left and a sharp right. Then you enter a dark tunnel. A tough and stomach dropping feeling and you never know what is on the other side. You know either way the ride is going to end but how? When? Where? That is the joy of jumping on and just going for it.
Now we either continue to take these rides for the addictive feeling, the adrenaline rush, the chemical change in your body. Or we opt out for good. The feeling is unpleasant and too scary for us. We stick with the kiddie rides. Ones you can get off real quick and you know they aren't going to go too fast or too slow. We keep it comfortable.
For us that keep coming back for more, we either get on by a dare or a fantasy. We know that the ride has a beginning and an ending. We know there are no promises and very little sense of security but we are intrigued by the feeling of the unknown.
If you go in with fear you never let your self actually enjoy the ride, you become weak and loose control. If you go in too strong you let your guard down too quick and you take the ride for granted. You never know when its going to end. But when it does end your the one confused and shocked and usually disappointed.
You must go in with knowledge of the ride, the risks that you are about to take, the possible falls that you cannot control. You need to sit back and observe the ride before you jump on.
Get an understanding of the history of that ride. I'm not saying to listen to others who have already rode the ride and their experiences. I mean for the way it was built, the ones who make it run, the ones the made sure it makes to turns easily and drops down but with the courage and strength to come back up. That way you have a slight amount of awareness for the unknown.
Never jump on a ride expecting too much or too litte, you will usually become disappointed. Once you get on a roller coaster or a relationship, its hard to get out. Be well aware you are ready to take that risky ride. You can not control how fast they go, when your ready to slow down, when you want it to go up or ready for it to take a turn, but you can control how it makes you feel and how it affects you.
Be sure when you take those rides in life you learn lessons and take the positive outlook when it ends.
Now we either continue to take these rides for the addictive feeling, the adrenaline rush, the chemical change in your body. Or we opt out for good. The feeling is unpleasant and too scary for us. We stick with the kiddie rides. Ones you can get off real quick and you know they aren't going to go too fast or too slow. We keep it comfortable.
For us that keep coming back for more, we either get on by a dare or a fantasy. We know that the ride has a beginning and an ending. We know there are no promises and very little sense of security but we are intrigued by the feeling of the unknown.
If you go in with fear you never let your self actually enjoy the ride, you become weak and loose control. If you go in too strong you let your guard down too quick and you take the ride for granted. You never know when its going to end. But when it does end your the one confused and shocked and usually disappointed.
You must go in with knowledge of the ride, the risks that you are about to take, the possible falls that you cannot control. You need to sit back and observe the ride before you jump on.
Get an understanding of the history of that ride. I'm not saying to listen to others who have already rode the ride and their experiences. I mean for the way it was built, the ones who make it run, the ones the made sure it makes to turns easily and drops down but with the courage and strength to come back up. That way you have a slight amount of awareness for the unknown.
Never jump on a ride expecting too much or too litte, you will usually become disappointed. Once you get on a roller coaster or a relationship, its hard to get out. Be well aware you are ready to take that risky ride. You can not control how fast they go, when your ready to slow down, when you want it to go up or ready for it to take a turn, but you can control how it makes you feel and how it affects you.
Be sure when you take those rides in life you learn lessons and take the positive outlook when it ends.
Monday, November 21, 2011
Insecurities suck!
I have a horrible issue with being insecure. I hate attention from guys unless its my guy. I get uncomfortable when someone points out my good qualities or tells me I'm pretty. If I get a complement I tell myself "they are lying". I get worried when there are other girls around and I'm having a lazy dress down day. I tell my self "I am not as pretty as them" and I constantly feel like my guy is checking them out or wishing I looked like them. I constantly wonder if he wonders what they would be like in bed or what they look like underneath those clothes. I always worry that my relationship is going to end and worry about my future with him. I get mad if he isn't making it aware to everyone that I'm his one an only. I get jealous if he is talking to girls that are just friends and possibly not even close friends at that. I worry if he is sitting on the other side of the couch and not being affectionate. I'm way too analytical for my own good with everything from text messages and facebook to silence or toned responses.
I hate that I'm like this but I have decided to make a change. I will start to build my self-confidence. I will let go of my fear of rejection. I will feel inferior. I will be sure of my abilities. I will get back to having only positive thoughts of my self.
I know I am beautiful, gorgeous, hot and I can be sexy when I want. I know I can pull something off a walmart shelf and make it look just as good as the girl walking around in Buckle clothing. I have an amazing personality and I know how to have a great time. I am an amazing mom and a great friend. I have a huge heart and love everyone. I forgive easily and love strongly. I'm an amazing girlfriend and some day a wonderful wife. I encourage my man to be more and achieve higher goals. I love him when times are grand and when they are rough. I should know and respect that he loves me just as much and he wouldn't be here if he didn't. He wouldn't be sharing his thoughts, his goals and his life dreams with me if he didn't want to be with me.
Fidelity is a gift that one person gives another. If I try to force fidelity out of him it is just robbing him of the joy of giving it to me. Its not love, its a negative form of co-dependency. It makes him feel powerless and like a slave. If I just allow him to gift me with his fidelity, he will be pleased to give more then I expected. I read that "trust is like a muscle. It needs to be used to grow. It will not grow if it is not used"
I know things change and I know feelings can change and if the time comes I will deal with it then, but right now I need to cherish the days and moments that I have with him. I cant worry about when or how the end is going to come... just enjoy every moment we are together. His smile, his touch, his words, his human-ness... these moments are the most wonderful things in life, I will experience them fully. Not throw them moments away by worrying.
He has shown me I can trust him and I have no reason not to. I just need to relax.
If you relate to this, please say so. I would love to know that I'm not the only one.
I hate that I'm like this but I have decided to make a change. I will start to build my self-confidence. I will let go of my fear of rejection. I will feel inferior. I will be sure of my abilities. I will get back to having only positive thoughts of my self.
I know I am beautiful, gorgeous, hot and I can be sexy when I want. I know I can pull something off a walmart shelf and make it look just as good as the girl walking around in Buckle clothing. I have an amazing personality and I know how to have a great time. I am an amazing mom and a great friend. I have a huge heart and love everyone. I forgive easily and love strongly. I'm an amazing girlfriend and some day a wonderful wife. I encourage my man to be more and achieve higher goals. I love him when times are grand and when they are rough. I should know and respect that he loves me just as much and he wouldn't be here if he didn't. He wouldn't be sharing his thoughts, his goals and his life dreams with me if he didn't want to be with me.
Fidelity is a gift that one person gives another. If I try to force fidelity out of him it is just robbing him of the joy of giving it to me. Its not love, its a negative form of co-dependency. It makes him feel powerless and like a slave. If I just allow him to gift me with his fidelity, he will be pleased to give more then I expected. I read that "trust is like a muscle. It needs to be used to grow. It will not grow if it is not used"
I know things change and I know feelings can change and if the time comes I will deal with it then, but right now I need to cherish the days and moments that I have with him. I cant worry about when or how the end is going to come... just enjoy every moment we are together. His smile, his touch, his words, his human-ness... these moments are the most wonderful things in life, I will experience them fully. Not throw them moments away by worrying.
He has shown me I can trust him and I have no reason not to. I just need to relax.
If you relate to this, please say so. I would love to know that I'm not the only one.
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Does everything really happen for a reason?
You automatically think everything happens for a reason. Its a way of helping your self accept what is going on at the moment. But honestly, would you walk up to someone that just lost their loved one and say "Everything happens for a reason"? I think not. You will probably no longer be friends or punched in the face.
A friend of mine truly believes that nothing happens for a reason. Him and I would have arguments constantly about why I believed they do and why he disagrees. I thought that if one thing happens its so that another thing can happen, and then this thing happens because that happened and then you end up where your suppose to be. Well these days, I don't believe that as much. I used it as a band aid for the negative that was in my life. I figured it was suppose to happen and a good experience was going to come of it.
Now I think I understand what my friend was meaning when he said nothing happens for a reason.
I believe that God shows me things or puts me in situations in my life but its what it does to me and the way it makes me feel that brings reason to them. There is no reason that I fell out of that tree except for the fact that I learned my lesson to be more careful. There is no reason for why I got hurt in that relationship. It wasn't so that better can come along, it wasn't so that I can make that change for me. It was for me to learn a lesson and know when I'm truly being loved and cared for. I have faith that any obstacle, no matter how big or small, I am going to overcome it and I'm going to learn from it. I have a faith that only comes from the experience. I read this quote from a man named Jared and he says "Its important to realize that things happen around us, not to us."
With the crazy summer that Ive had and all the obstacles that have came my way such as Tess getting bite by the dog, breaking her leg, breaking up with Wyatt, meeting new people and then getting back with Wyatt, I have realized that these where all lessons that I have learned from. They didn't happen in my life intentionally, they just occured and I made a conscious decisions that contributed to these occurrences.
With Tesslynn getting bit by the dog I learned how to calm a scared child, how to remain calm for her sake, how wrap a dog bite and care for an open wound how to be loving and nurturing on a whole other level then what I do on a daily basis.
Her broken leg, I learned to tell when a leg is broken or sprained, how to elevate a broken leg, how wrap it, how to care for a cast, how teach her to walk again.
Wyatt and I breaking up. I learned that I can not give love to someone very easily without fulling loving my self first.
Meeting people such as Kevin. There wasn't a reason I met him. I didn't get my job so that I can meet him, we can have a strong relationship, we can stop dating every 3 months, start dating again, and I can find what I want. I met him by choice and I learned so much from him. I learned how to laugh again over the simplest things, I learned how communicate on a mature level, how to understand someone else's feelings and not just think about my self. I learned how to enjoy other things in life like Hikes, plays, movies, fancy dinners and more.
Getting back with Wyatt I learned that I need to love my self while loving someone else. I learned how to not focus on the petty annoyances and focus on the things that really matter. Like the happiness of our family, the laughter in all 3 of our voices, the sound of a quiet house when my little family is sound asleep. These are things that matter most.
If there are obstacles that are in my way of learning more from the experiences that have already taught me so much, then I need to move those obstacles and continue to focus on learning life lessons everyday.
Tesslynn may get hurt again one day but I will have more knowledge on how to care for her, how to help heal her, how to stay calm. Wyatt and I may break up permanently but it wont be for a reason, it wont be so that something else can come along, it'll be gods way of allowing me to learn a new lesson. Kevin and I may never talk again or we may be good friend but it'll teach a new lesson and I will continue to grow.
Everything that comes my way is now a lesson and I will embrace it. I will love what life throws upon me and I will find wisdom from it.
A friend of mine truly believes that nothing happens for a reason. Him and I would have arguments constantly about why I believed they do and why he disagrees. I thought that if one thing happens its so that another thing can happen, and then this thing happens because that happened and then you end up where your suppose to be. Well these days, I don't believe that as much. I used it as a band aid for the negative that was in my life. I figured it was suppose to happen and a good experience was going to come of it.
Now I think I understand what my friend was meaning when he said nothing happens for a reason.
I believe that God shows me things or puts me in situations in my life but its what it does to me and the way it makes me feel that brings reason to them. There is no reason that I fell out of that tree except for the fact that I learned my lesson to be more careful. There is no reason for why I got hurt in that relationship. It wasn't so that better can come along, it wasn't so that I can make that change for me. It was for me to learn a lesson and know when I'm truly being loved and cared for. I have faith that any obstacle, no matter how big or small, I am going to overcome it and I'm going to learn from it. I have a faith that only comes from the experience. I read this quote from a man named Jared and he says "Its important to realize that things happen around us, not to us."
With the crazy summer that Ive had and all the obstacles that have came my way such as Tess getting bite by the dog, breaking her leg, breaking up with Wyatt, meeting new people and then getting back with Wyatt, I have realized that these where all lessons that I have learned from. They didn't happen in my life intentionally, they just occured and I made a conscious decisions that contributed to these occurrences.
With Tesslynn getting bit by the dog I learned how to calm a scared child, how to remain calm for her sake, how wrap a dog bite and care for an open wound how to be loving and nurturing on a whole other level then what I do on a daily basis.
Her broken leg, I learned to tell when a leg is broken or sprained, how to elevate a broken leg, how wrap it, how to care for a cast, how teach her to walk again.
Wyatt and I breaking up. I learned that I can not give love to someone very easily without fulling loving my self first.
Meeting people such as Kevin. There wasn't a reason I met him. I didn't get my job so that I can meet him, we can have a strong relationship, we can stop dating every 3 months, start dating again, and I can find what I want. I met him by choice and I learned so much from him. I learned how to laugh again over the simplest things, I learned how communicate on a mature level, how to understand someone else's feelings and not just think about my self. I learned how to enjoy other things in life like Hikes, plays, movies, fancy dinners and more.
Getting back with Wyatt I learned that I need to love my self while loving someone else. I learned how to not focus on the petty annoyances and focus on the things that really matter. Like the happiness of our family, the laughter in all 3 of our voices, the sound of a quiet house when my little family is sound asleep. These are things that matter most.
If there are obstacles that are in my way of learning more from the experiences that have already taught me so much, then I need to move those obstacles and continue to focus on learning life lessons everyday.
Tesslynn may get hurt again one day but I will have more knowledge on how to care for her, how to help heal her, how to stay calm. Wyatt and I may break up permanently but it wont be for a reason, it wont be so that something else can come along, it'll be gods way of allowing me to learn a new lesson. Kevin and I may never talk again or we may be good friend but it'll teach a new lesson and I will continue to grow.
Everything that comes my way is now a lesson and I will embrace it. I will love what life throws upon me and I will find wisdom from it.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
SPORTS FISH OR KEEPERS. WHICH ONE ARE YOU?
I'm reading a book by Steve Harvey called Act like a Lady, Think Like a Man.
This book is amazing so far. I must share a key subject in the book that I think woman need know.
Ladies that are blaming men for treating you like an object (sports fish), maybe you should take sometime for your self and evaluate the type of person you're portraying yourself to be.
According to Mr. Harvey, a sports fish is a woman that doesn't have any rules, requirements, or respect for herself. Men can smell these girls coming. They are the party gals. The ones who take a sip of their long island ice tea or taking that shot of Patron and then announces to her date that she "wants to just date and see how it goes". This girl does not hold and restrictions to men and men can treat her in any kind of way they please. Men will stand in line for these girls, that's for sure.
Then there is what he calls a "Keeper". This girl never gives in easily, she has high standards and requirements and you can notice that from the moment she opens her mouth. You can see she commands respect just by the way she dresses, walks, talks.. These girls will also send the signal that she is capable of being loyal, taking care of a man and being appreciative of what he brings to the relationship. Guys may walk up and give her their best known pick up lines and these girls may giggle and think its cute but there is no guarantee that you are going to get her phone number. This girl knows what she wants for her self and is determined to get it. Men also have to get in line with these girls but its not behind other men, its behind her standards and requirements.
Its not the guy that determines whether you're a sports fish or a keeper-its you.
When a man approaches you, take control over the situation. You decide whether he buys you a drink, gets your number, takes you on a second date, all of that. Men want these things, that's the reason they talked to you in the first place. You decide if he gets those things. Steve Harvey says "Every word you say, every move you make, every signal you give a to a man will help him determine whether he should try to play you, be straight with you , or move on the next woman to do a little more sport fishing.
I'm reading a book by Steve Harvey called Act like a Lady, Think Like a Man.
This book is amazing so far. I must share a key subject in the book that I think woman need know.
Ladies that are blaming men for treating you like an object (sports fish), maybe you should take sometime for your self and evaluate the type of person you're portraying yourself to be.
According to Mr. Harvey, a sports fish is a woman that doesn't have any rules, requirements, or respect for herself. Men can smell these girls coming. They are the party gals. The ones who take a sip of their long island ice tea or taking that shot of Patron and then announces to her date that she "wants to just date and see how it goes". This girl does not hold and restrictions to men and men can treat her in any kind of way they please. Men will stand in line for these girls, that's for sure.
Then there is what he calls a "Keeper". This girl never gives in easily, she has high standards and requirements and you can notice that from the moment she opens her mouth. You can see she commands respect just by the way she dresses, walks, talks.. These girls will also send the signal that she is capable of being loyal, taking care of a man and being appreciative of what he brings to the relationship. Guys may walk up and give her their best known pick up lines and these girls may giggle and think its cute but there is no guarantee that you are going to get her phone number. This girl knows what she wants for her self and is determined to get it. Men also have to get in line with these girls but its not behind other men, its behind her standards and requirements.
Its not the guy that determines whether you're a sports fish or a keeper-its you.
When a man approaches you, take control over the situation. You decide whether he buys you a drink, gets your number, takes you on a second date, all of that. Men want these things, that's the reason they talked to you in the first place. You decide if he gets those things. Steve Harvey says "Every word you say, every move you make, every signal you give a to a man will help him determine whether he should try to play you, be straight with you , or move on the next woman to do a little more sport fishing.
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Time to get back on track!! :)
The past couple weeks I have been so focused on pleasing everyone else that I lost track of who I am and what Im trying to do. I was doing so great with my attendance at work, I started to get everything lined up to start school again, I was reading books all the time, I started drawing, started scrapbooking, started new recipes and was just happy and content with my self. Well yesterday I had a rude awakening. I have became unhappy again. I have let all that go within a matter of days. I have drawn once, cooked once, barely even started scapbooking, stopped reading, didnt even care to return my library book. School hasnt even crossed my mind in about two weeks and Im suppose to be picking classes in 7 days. It has gotten so bad to where I wont even fold my clean clothes or hang them up. Ive pulled them outta the dryer and threw them in to huge pile. This pile is now up to my hips if I propped the pile up just right. I put all my energy and time into something that I couldnt force. I tried to force it, tried to persuade it, tried to trick it, tried to manipulate it. I should have realized that if it was meant to be then it would be.
I have been longing for my other half, the person that makes me feel complete, the one that has the desire to make me smile and see me laugh, the one that knows his day isn't complete until he See's me and knows Im happy. This probably sounds needy and I may be asking for too much. But I know what I deserve and I have met men that are actually like that. I know they exist. I long for this because this is exactly what I would do for someone else. I love him, I really do! I have tried and tried to be what he wants, what he needs, what makes him happy, but there is my problem. What about what I want, what I need, what makes me happy?
I want success, good health, a college degree, a backyard of my own. I need to smile, I need to vent, I need to feel loved. I'm happy when someone loves me back, when I see the light in my daughter's eyes glisten. Im happy when I don't let other peoples issue get in the way of my goals and dreams.
If anyone can relate please keep reading. My wonderful friend Gabby sent me a message (below). This message reminded me everything I learn when I started reading and when I started to become happy with myself again. Tonight I am going to write 5 of these quotes and place them somewhere in my room. That way every morning when I wake up, I know what I need to focus on the obstacles in life are just that, obstacles.
"Life can be pulled by goals just as surely as it can be pushed by drives"
"If you don't know where you are going
you'll end up someplace else."
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living
someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma —
which is living with the results of other people’s
thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out
your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to
follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you
truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
(“There’s no next time. It’s now or never.”)
“Every moment you get is a gift. Spend it on things
that matter. Don’t spend it by dwelling on unhappy things.”
"Everything around us is made up of energy. To attract positive
things in your life, start by giving off positive energy."
“Your work is to discover your work and then, with all your heart,
to give yourself to it.”
“We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past.
Become the architect of your future.”
(“Holding on to anything is like holding on to your breath. You will
suffocate. The only way to get anything in the physical universe is by
letting go of it. Let go & it will be yours forever”.)
“Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.”
“Everyone faces challenges in life. It’s a matter of how you learn
to overcome them and using them to your advantage.”
“If what you’re doing is not your passion, you have nothing to lose.”
“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself
what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because
what the world needs is people who are alive.”
“No matter where you are in life right now, no matter who
you are, no matter how old you are – it is never too late to
be who you are meant to be.”
“The world makes way for the man who knows where he is going.”
“Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what
is possible for your life.”
(“Don’t be pushed by your problems; be led by your dreams.”)
“Everything you want should be yours: the type of work you want; the relationships you
need; the social, mental, and aesthetic stimulation that will make you happy
and fulfilled; the money you require for the lifestyle that is appropriate to you;
and any requirement that you may (or may not) have for achievement or service to others.
If you don’t aim for it all, you’ll never get it all. To aim for it requires that you
know what you want”
(“Every second you spend thinking about someone else’s dreams you take time
away from your own.” )
“20 years from now you will be disappointed by the
things you didn’t do than by the one’s you did. So throw
off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the
trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover”
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall
into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”
“The tragedy of life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy
lies in having no goals to reach.”
“A goal is a dream with a deadline.”
Your life is yours to create – Don’t let others do it for you.
Amanda you are the own creator of your experiences... it all starts with your imagination..
picture your self where you want to be who you want to be what you want to accomplish
imagine your self already there and everything will fall into place.. attract what you
want to bring to your life.. don't loose focus... let Wyatt be who he is and focus
on the potential that you have inside your self to create a world full of happiness for you..
focus on your goals and the things that make you
happy do not loose your identity.. love your friend gabby
Thursday, October 27, 2011
I wish he thought this way. Someone will someday....
“I realized right then and there, in that hallway, that I wanted no other... I became the man she needed me to be because she had sense enough to have requirements-standards that she needed in her relationship in order to make the relationship work for her.
She knew she wanted a monogamous relationship-a partnership with a man who wanted to be a dedicated husband and father. She also knew this man had to be faithful, love God, and be willing to do what it took to keep this family together. On a smaller scale she also made it clear that she expected to be treated like a lady at every turn-I'm talking opening car doors for her, pulling out her seat when she's ready to sit at the table, coming correct on anniversary, Mother's Day, and birthday gifts, keeping the foul talk to a minimum. These requirements are important to her because they lay out a virtual map of what I need to do to make sure she gets what she needs and wants. After all, it's universal knowledge that when mama is happy, everybody is happy. And it is my sole mission in life to make sure "Amanda" is happy.”
― Steve Harvey
She knew she wanted a monogamous relationship-a partnership with a man who wanted to be a dedicated husband and father. She also knew this man had to be faithful, love God, and be willing to do what it took to keep this family together. On a smaller scale she also made it clear that she expected to be treated like a lady at every turn-I'm talking opening car doors for her, pulling out her seat when she's ready to sit at the table, coming correct on anniversary, Mother's Day, and birthday gifts, keeping the foul talk to a minimum. These requirements are important to her because they lay out a virtual map of what I need to do to make sure she gets what she needs and wants. After all, it's universal knowledge that when mama is happy, everybody is happy. And it is my sole mission in life to make sure "Amanda" is happy.”
― Steve Harvey
If your going out on dates then this is for you!
Is Chivalry dead?
I didnt know what this word was till this morning. A man wrote me a message asking me on a date and asked if I believed in Chivalry. Im thinking to myself "What the hell is that, a religion or something?"
HAH! Little did I know, its something that Ive longed for many relationships ago.
I know I know, Im only 21 years old but still this is something every girl longs for. From playing Barbie's to playing house, to going to Prom or on your first date.
If your like I was and have no idea what this means, let me give you an idea. So your sitting in traffic and trying to find something to keep your mind off the annoying stop and go. You see a young couple, just kissing away. They seem to be in the honey-moon stage. She is so happy holding his hand, its as if she is skipping down the road. She couldnt be more giddy! This couple is so cute and you can tell nothing in the world means anything to them right now. Well they are getting ready to go into a coffee shop and you see him all but break his neck to get in ahead of her and let the door slam—I mean, physically slonk her—on her shoulder. You want to send her a telepathic message to turn tail, hail a cab, and end that date immediately. But she doesnt. She grimaced and limped in after him.
Chivalry in short means being a gentleman, having manners. I dont know about you but that is one of the sexiest traits a man can have. I think this way because it is lacked so much today in the dating world. Even married men dont know what it means to be a polite gentleman. If you, as a man, feel like your pride is being taken away by doing this, your a big fat cowardly looser.
Ladies on your next date I want you to try something. Stop at the restaurant door and wait. And wait. And wait some more until he gets the drift. Same thing at the table pausing for a chair to be pulled out. Same thing at the car door. In a way your doing your part by reminding guys or your teaching them if theyve never done it in the first place. Some women like you, need to demand a higher standard or treatment. Your not being bitchy, snotty or snobby. Its called being a lady!!
I didnt know what this word was till this morning. A man wrote me a message asking me on a date and asked if I believed in Chivalry. Im thinking to myself "What the hell is that, a religion or something?"
HAH! Little did I know, its something that Ive longed for many relationships ago.
I know I know, Im only 21 years old but still this is something every girl longs for. From playing Barbie's to playing house, to going to Prom or on your first date.
If your like I was and have no idea what this means, let me give you an idea. So your sitting in traffic and trying to find something to keep your mind off the annoying stop and go. You see a young couple, just kissing away. They seem to be in the honey-moon stage. She is so happy holding his hand, its as if she is skipping down the road. She couldnt be more giddy! This couple is so cute and you can tell nothing in the world means anything to them right now. Well they are getting ready to go into a coffee shop and you see him all but break his neck to get in ahead of her and let the door slam—I mean, physically slonk her—on her shoulder. You want to send her a telepathic message to turn tail, hail a cab, and end that date immediately. But she doesnt. She grimaced and limped in after him.
Chivalry in short means being a gentleman, having manners. I dont know about you but that is one of the sexiest traits a man can have. I think this way because it is lacked so much today in the dating world. Even married men dont know what it means to be a polite gentleman. If you, as a man, feel like your pride is being taken away by doing this, your a big fat cowardly looser.
Ladies on your next date I want you to try something. Stop at the restaurant door and wait. And wait. And wait some more until he gets the drift. Same thing at the table pausing for a chair to be pulled out. Same thing at the car door. In a way your doing your part by reminding guys or your teaching them if theyve never done it in the first place. Some women like you, need to demand a higher standard or treatment. Your not being bitchy, snotty or snobby. Its called being a lady!!
Thursday, October 20, 2011
My friends are better then yours.
A friend wrote me yesterday and made a really nice comment about how she loves my blog, a few people did actually. I appreciate it so much!! I had a feeling I wasnt going to be very well at blogging. I was very hesitant about linking it to my fb cause I figured it would never get as much attention as some of my friends'.
First off my cousn told me I inspired her to start a blog. Her blog is amazing so far and it been one day. WOW! I must say she one talented writer and she will right what ever she is thinking. She is blunt and gets straight to the point.
Second there is a girl that I never really talk to, we are friends but we dont usually talk. Well she wrote me yesterday and said that she loved my blog and that it has helped her so much. It made me feel soo... good.
After a while of texting with this friend we both found out that we are going through the same thing. We both would love to be with the father of our kids, we both want our family together. But the men in our lifes aren't on the same page. We are trying to figure out if its best to move on and get happy again or just be happy with ourselves and hope they eventually come around. We both know what we deserve and the way our men should treat us and we should just move on. But Damn!! its just not that easy.
This is what my next post is going to be about... Why men decide to stray when they have woman at home that are strong, independent, and loving. And why women still want those men.
Stay tuned...
First off my cousn told me I inspired her to start a blog. Her blog is amazing so far and it been one day. WOW! I must say she one talented writer and she will right what ever she is thinking. She is blunt and gets straight to the point.
Second there is a girl that I never really talk to, we are friends but we dont usually talk. Well she wrote me yesterday and said that she loved my blog and that it has helped her so much. It made me feel soo... good.
After a while of texting with this friend we both found out that we are going through the same thing. We both would love to be with the father of our kids, we both want our family together. But the men in our lifes aren't on the same page. We are trying to figure out if its best to move on and get happy again or just be happy with ourselves and hope they eventually come around. We both know what we deserve and the way our men should treat us and we should just move on. But Damn!! its just not that easy.
This is what my next post is going to be about... Why men decide to stray when they have woman at home that are strong, independent, and loving. And why women still want those men.
Stay tuned...
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
No means I can decide for my self.
My Tessy is constantly telling me "No" these days. Recently I will ask her to come here, her answer is "no" I ask her to eat. No! I ask her to go get on the potty. NO! Oh and it wasnt just "No" it was a little smirk and sometimes a giggle then she would go right back to what she was doing. In my mind Im thinking "that little shit, she thinks she is funny." Between me and you, It was quite cute after the fact. But during, oh no! I was ready for a "yes" and "No" war.
So after a week of that I stopped asking her and began to tell her what to do and threaten "time out". She would get in time out and cry for a minute and sure it made me feel like the boss again but that still didnt get the deed done in the potty, it was one more pull up I had to change and two mouths to feed instead of just my own.
I read a book a while back called Parenting with Love and Logic. I didnt read it all the way through but I did get some great knowledge out of the book. I learned that a child is saying "No" because they have learned they can make their own choices. And the giggling and smiling that goes with it could be them just loving the feeling of having their own sence of independency. The book gave an idea on how to over come that. Its about giving them choices and making it a choice that, either way, the outcome isnt demolishing their feeling of being able to choose what they want and being sure you still feel like you are in control.
So for dinner one night she didnt want to eat her dinner, of course. I was ready to put her in time out until she was ready to eat. (last time I did that it resulted in her coming back to the table, taking one bite and throwing up all her food) So I thought to my self, Tesslynn loves deserts and she will be so excited if she gets a little snack after dinner. So I said "If you eat 5 more bites I will give you a apple with some peanut butter or some fruit snacks" She was all over it. And when she was done I let her make her choice of which snack she would perfer. I should have already known it was going to be fruit snacks but Hey, dinner got eaten and she felt good about it.
So after a week of that I stopped asking her and began to tell her what to do and threaten "time out". She would get in time out and cry for a minute and sure it made me feel like the boss again but that still didnt get the deed done in the potty, it was one more pull up I had to change and two mouths to feed instead of just my own.
I read a book a while back called Parenting with Love and Logic. I didnt read it all the way through but I did get some great knowledge out of the book. I learned that a child is saying "No" because they have learned they can make their own choices. And the giggling and smiling that goes with it could be them just loving the feeling of having their own sence of independency. The book gave an idea on how to over come that. Its about giving them choices and making it a choice that, either way, the outcome isnt demolishing their feeling of being able to choose what they want and being sure you still feel like you are in control.
So for dinner one night she didnt want to eat her dinner, of course. I was ready to put her in time out until she was ready to eat. (last time I did that it resulted in her coming back to the table, taking one bite and throwing up all her food) So I thought to my self, Tesslynn loves deserts and she will be so excited if she gets a little snack after dinner. So I said "If you eat 5 more bites I will give you a apple with some peanut butter or some fruit snacks" She was all over it. And when she was done I let her make her choice of which snack she would perfer. I should have already known it was going to be fruit snacks but Hey, dinner got eaten and she felt good about it.
Women can be so......
"No one really talks about it, but one of the main reasons, preventing women from getting along with each other is the J Word Jealousy. Most of my friends are men. Stop , before you read any farther with this. There is no romance, foreplay or sexual contact of any kind with my male friends.I find that I interact better with men than women. Some women, not all women are catty chatty dolls. Women can be very ,silly, competitive and always want to be the center of attention. One of my girl friends will make sure that the guys will always look at her first , when we are out at a club or concert. She will always start a disturbance to get notice. When entering a room at a party or club women will scope you out from head to toe before the guys will . They are looking for a flaw. Most men have no time to become drama queens or frivolous.
I love being a woman . Smelling good and looking good. What I really hate are false phony females, who do not speak the same language as I do. Secretly , all women have an idea of what a woman should look like.
We think that a women is someone who is appealing to men. Has a great sense of style,class and has a devoted group of female admires and males.When we see one another possibly attaining even one of those attributes, the claws come out!"
Last night was my first night at Wingers and I could not believe the Evil within females. The moment I walk-in it is all eye on me, thats the way I felt anyways. Looking me up and down, judging me from the get go. I didnt even have a chance to introduce myself before they decided if they liked me or not. I didnt want to walk around with my gaurd instantly up because I knew if I did that, they would take it as a threat. So I was everyones little B**** the whole night. Offering help when I seen someone struggling, holding doors, cleaning up others messes, saying "please" and "thank you" like it was going out of stye.
Those manner my parents tought me when I was little really came into effect last night. Usually I would think I have to keep my guard up because It would make me look week. Not this time! It really paid off. By the end of the night the girls were saying "Bye", "Nice meeting you!" "You did great tonight!" Ect... It was a great!!
I love being a woman . Smelling good and looking good. What I really hate are false phony females, who do not speak the same language as I do. Secretly , all women have an idea of what a woman should look like.
We think that a women is someone who is appealing to men. Has a great sense of style,class and has a devoted group of female admires and males.When we see one another possibly attaining even one of those attributes, the claws come out!"
By Wonder Referrals
Last night was my first night at Wingers and I could not believe the Evil within females. The moment I walk-in it is all eye on me, thats the way I felt anyways. Looking me up and down, judging me from the get go. I didnt even have a chance to introduce myself before they decided if they liked me or not. I didnt want to walk around with my gaurd instantly up because I knew if I did that, they would take it as a threat. So I was everyones little B**** the whole night. Offering help when I seen someone struggling, holding doors, cleaning up others messes, saying "please" and "thank you" like it was going out of stye.
Those manner my parents tought me when I was little really came into effect last night. Usually I would think I have to keep my guard up because It would make me look week. Not this time! It really paid off. By the end of the night the girls were saying "Bye", "Nice meeting you!" "You did great tonight!" Ect... It was a great!!
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
“When you are happy, you are sexy”
The past couple weeks I have thrown my self at his feet. NO MORE!!
These are some lines from Why Men Love Bitches. They have helped me so much.
I cant wait to get the book!!
“Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.”
Be that "toy" he long desires. Be that toy he works very hard to get. If he isnt trying, he isnt worth it.
These are some lines from Why Men Love Bitches. They have helped me so much.
I cant wait to get the book!!
“Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.”
- “Whenever you are too worried about someone else's approval, that person loses respect for you.”
- It started when he was a kid. When he received a toy for Christmas that he didn’t even ask for, he played with it for a while, five minutes. The toy he cherished was the one he bought with two months’ allowance that sat on the top shelf in the toy store. He couldn’t reach it but went in to look at it all the time.
Be that "toy" he long desires. Be that toy he works very hard to get. If he isnt trying, he isnt worth it.
- “When you live life with him or without him, that is when he will accept and value you for who you are.”
- “you can tell how much someone respects you by how much he respects your opinion. If he does't respect your opinion,he won't respect you.”
- Every guy knows he can find a girl who is simply satisfied with satisfying him. They are much more turned on *by a woman who cares about her own pleasure as well.”
- Don't believe what anyone tells you about yourself.”
- “When a man sees you are happy with him but you can be just as happy having nothing to do with him, that’s when he won’t want to leave your side. When you are happy, you are sexy.”
- In romance, there's nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is.”
- “There's nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or strugle a little bit to get.”
- “With a woman he's crazy about, he'll put in all the overtime in the world. He'll be doing things for you, he'll be considerate, he'll want to please you, he'll try to cheer you up if you are down, and he will enjoy every moment because you are the person he values most.”
- “Relationship Principle 10
You can tell how much someone respects you by how much he respects your opinion. If he doesn't respect your opinion, he won't respect you.” - “Men are intrigued by anything they do not completly control.”
- “Relationship Principle 3
He doesn't marry a woman who is perfect. He marries the woman who is interesting.” - “Relationship Principle 11
It is better to be disliked for being who you are than to be loved for who you are not.” - “When a man likes you, he will be interested in finding out what you like. If he makes you happy, he feels more secure. Everything men do is intended to impress women.”
- “Relationship Principle 6
Men see how you dress, and then make assumptions about your relationship potential.” - “As soon as a manhas his guard up. he will not fall in love or get attached the only way he'll get attached is if you lower his guard first.”
- “you can tell how much someone respects you by how much he respects your opinion. If he does't respect your opinion,he won't respect you.”
“The bitch does not stop moving to her own rhythm. This, in and of itself, prevents her from becoming off-balance like a nice girl who abandons her routine.”
― Sherry Argov,
Monday, October 17, 2011
IF HE ISNT CALLING YOU
If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a fcking phone call
Time to move on....
The tables have turned. The outcomes have changed in a way that I never thought would and I have realized so much about what I want and dont want. "I don't want to be "sort of dating" someone. I don't want to be "kinda hanging out" with someone. I don't want to spend a lot of energy suppressing my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved. I want to be sleeping with someone I know... I'll see again because they've already demonstrated to me that they're trustworthy and honorable -- and into me." "The right man/woman does not need to be reminded that your great." "If he/she says they 'DONT KNOW' then that means"NO!" "I don't know" means "I'm too cowardly to tell you the truth because I can't deal with confrontation." "I don't know" means please do the dirty work for me because I don't want to hurt your feelings even more then I already have." "Cut them off!!" "Dont give them the chance to reject you again." This man/woman took a good long look at the awesomeness that is you, evaluated your relationship together, and said, "No, thanks. I'll try my luck elsewhere. There is going to come a point where you are going to say "BUT HE/SHE WAS SO GREAT!" Yes, and the people who got on the Titanic thought they were going on vacation. Things changed and it's important to remember that they did. Before you look for validation in others, try and find it in yourself. Be happy with who you are... if you have made mistakes, own up to them and take responsibilty. Learn from the mistakes and get back on that bus of life. Maybe one day your paths will join. But until then you can not pull someone on to your bus that doesnt have the desire to go.
Dear Man Of My Dreams,
Dear man of my dreams,
I do not know who you are, or where or when we will meet, but I hope its soon.
I pray that when we meet and fall in love, you will love me for me, and not hope for someone who is thinner or prettier. I hope you will make me laugh,
take care of me if I get sick, and be trustworthy.
I hope youll remember that I prefer daisies to roses and my favorite color changes with my m...ood. Please know that my eyes aren't blue, they're grey, with flecks of navy.
Please know that I might be too shy to kiss you first, but please don't be afraid to kiss me. I'm sure your kisses will be perfect. When we go on a date, please don't stress about where to take me; what's important is that I'll be with you.
If I cry, just hold me close and I'll heal quickly. Please tell me if anything I do bothers you, I would like you to always be honest with me. i would like you to praise me for my future and not put me down for my past. I hope you will shower me with confidence and smiles. I hope you don't think that I'm asking too much of you. I hope you understand that im very scared. Every relationship is a new game of cards, and...I've never been good at cards. But I will try my best to be kind and love you for all that you are. this is all that I ask.
sincerely: the women of your dreams.
I do not know who you are, or where or when we will meet, but I hope its soon.
I pray that when we meet and fall in love, you will love me for me, and not hope for someone who is thinner or prettier. I hope you will make me laugh,
take care of me if I get sick, and be trustworthy.
I hope youll remember that I prefer daisies to roses and my favorite color changes with my m...ood. Please know that my eyes aren't blue, they're grey, with flecks of navy.
Please know that I might be too shy to kiss you first, but please don't be afraid to kiss me. I'm sure your kisses will be perfect. When we go on a date, please don't stress about where to take me; what's important is that I'll be with you.
If I cry, just hold me close and I'll heal quickly. Please tell me if anything I do bothers you, I would like you to always be honest with me. i would like you to praise me for my future and not put me down for my past. I hope you will shower me with confidence and smiles. I hope you don't think that I'm asking too much of you. I hope you understand that im very scared. Every relationship is a new game of cards, and...I've never been good at cards. But I will try my best to be kind and love you for all that you are. this is all that I ask.
sincerely: the women of your dreams.
So... for the past couple weeks I have been reading self help books. So far I have read: The Secret; Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus; Power of Intention; The Proper Care and Feeding of a Husband and I have a few others on hold at the library. I believe they have helped me so much with knowing what I want and how to be happy with my self.
Before, I relied on a relationship to make me happy. I always needed someone there. Someone to text, someone to talk to, someone to go out with on the weekends. If I didnt have this I would get needy, depressed, call ex's, whatever I could I do to feel happy. It became pathetic.
Now that I feel like I know so much, I know that I can go home and spend a whole weekend alone and still wake up every morning feeling happy and in love with my self.
I love this feeling and I will continue to read and do my best with keeping positve and happy.
Before, I relied on a relationship to make me happy. I always needed someone there. Someone to text, someone to talk to, someone to go out with on the weekends. If I didnt have this I would get needy, depressed, call ex's, whatever I could I do to feel happy. It became pathetic.
Now that I feel like I know so much, I know that I can go home and spend a whole weekend alone and still wake up every morning feeling happy and in love with my self.
I love this feeling and I will continue to read and do my best with keeping positve and happy.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
About me and my decision to Blog!
Lately I have been reading so many blogs at work. Some are good and some are just plain boring. Mine, well its probably going to be one of those boring ones so I hope you still love me. Im interested in blogging though because I have so many exciting moments with me and my family and keeping a journal is just not something thats for me. I dont have time to go home and write in a journal so Ill use my free time at work to blog. These blogs are not going to revolve around anything specific, not only my family, not only my friends, but just experiances. I am a little redneck chick, I love hunting fishing and anything outdoors. So if you are a PETA fan you may not want to read some of my blogs, Im going to be posting my hunting adventures, my fishing trips and probably some interesting pictures.
I am a very undecisive girl (which one isnt, right?) I have more flaws then most people would imagine possible. I am also one to recongize those flaws every single day. Im either, to skinny when my pants are falling off my butt, Im too fat when I cant get the damn things up. It sucks! I love being blonde, it gives me and excuse for my stupid and actions, questions and comments. I want to go burnette because Im always getting a wild hair up my *** to do something drastic, but then I chicken out and do something plain. Am I plain? Is there nothing exciting about me. No, I am very out going, spontantious, and I love thrill. I work and love to help everyone around me. I am a mother of a little girl that was born in 2009. She is my pride and joy my strength to breath and keep going. She gives me the drive I need to get us where we want to be in life. For being a toddler, she is very well mannered, very loving and is a bucket of laughter. She can make anyone's heart melt or.... she can make you run for your life. Just cause Im talking like my two year old is an angel, doesnt mean she is. Im her mom- I have to say it. She is also 2 going on 16. She will tell you where the bear s***s it the woods, she knows everything and she has a voice box with the sound of a firework. But you gotta love her! How can't you?
Well anyways.. Here goes my blog!
I am a very undecisive girl (which one isnt, right?) I have more flaws then most people would imagine possible. I am also one to recongize those flaws every single day. Im either, to skinny when my pants are falling off my butt, Im too fat when I cant get the damn things up. It sucks! I love being blonde, it gives me and excuse for my stupid and actions, questions and comments. I want to go burnette because Im always getting a wild hair up my *** to do something drastic, but then I chicken out and do something plain. Am I plain? Is there nothing exciting about me. No, I am very out going, spontantious, and I love thrill. I work and love to help everyone around me. I am a mother of a little girl that was born in 2009. She is my pride and joy my strength to breath and keep going. She gives me the drive I need to get us where we want to be in life. For being a toddler, she is very well mannered, very loving and is a bucket of laughter. She can make anyone's heart melt or.... she can make you run for your life. Just cause Im talking like my two year old is an angel, doesnt mean she is. Im her mom- I have to say it. She is also 2 going on 16. She will tell you where the bear s***s it the woods, she knows everything and she has a voice box with the sound of a firework. But you gotta love her! How can't you?
Well anyways.. Here goes my blog!
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