KIP

You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret to your success is found in your daily routine. Wake up everyday & ask yourself, how bad do you want it? How much are you willing to put forth the effort into things and people you want and need in your life? Nothing great comes with out effort. You cant reach anything new if your hands are still full of yesterdays junk. Even if the path is blurry, keep walking. You'll focus in when you know what you want. The picture of your life will be crystal clear! After all, its not the first chapter of our lives that shows how well we ran this incredible race. So smile, laugh, forgive & believe. Over & over, Again & again.

Keep It Postive

Friends give the greatest advice!

You're Only In your 20's for a Decade!

Take advantage of your 20s

I read a blog today that made me think. I am living my 20s all wrong ;)

My favorites

1. Don’t feel the need to respond to every text message, phone call, and email the second it reaches you. Once upon a time, it took longer than a minute to reach someone. People used stamps and envelopes; they had answering machines they didn’t check for hours, sometimes days. No one will die if you don’t immediately respond to every message you receive.

2. Ask for what’s owed to you. Half the time, you’re not getting your needs met because you’re not making them known. Your employers, romantic interests, and friends are not going to read your mind and give you what you need unless you speak up.

3. Never turn down an open bar. Seek them out and make them a priority. Indulging in open bars when you’re older isn’t appropriate because a) people will think you have an alcohol problem and b) you’re supposed to have enough money to afford your own alcohol.

4. If you’re unhappy and someone offers you a way out, take it. You don’t owe your first job years of loyalty and your first-born; you don’t have to stay in your city just because you’re on a first-name basis with the bodega guy. Do what feels right; the initial fear will give way to excitement.

5. Take advantage of all the energy you have in your 20s. In your 30s and 40s, your body starts getting upset with you, when some 20-something babe is all, “Wanna race?” That’s not a concern when you’re in your 20s — don’t ever take it for granted.

6. Play a sport you played in elementary school. Kickball, dodgeball. There are leagues for these games now. Get on it.

7. Keep making friends. Everyone complains that it’s hard to make friends after college, but we still manage to find new people to flirt with and date, right? It’s not that hard. You know yourself better than you ever have before, and your friends can finally reflect that. Don’t cling to old friends because it’s too frightening or ‘risky’ to make new ones.

8. Stay up late. In your 20s, you’re all, “Let’s go to another bar!” “Who wants to eat at a diner?” “Have you guys seen the sun rise from the High Line?” “In this moment I swear we were infinite!” When you get older, this becomes, “What are you doing? Go home. Watch Parks and Rec and go to sleep. What is wrong with you, staying up all night? Who has time for that?” If you’re in your 20s, you do. You have all the time. Do it now and take advantage of how not tired you are. You think you’re crabby now when you stay up too late? You’ll never believe how terrible you feel when you do it in your 30s.

9. Savor those 20s hangovers. They are a gift from God so that you’ll always remember what your tolerance level is. Your hangover recovery time is like flippin’ Wolverine in your 20s. You wake up, feel like death, pull on some shades, gulp down coffee or maybe a bloody Mary and whine about your headache over brunch. Oh, boo hoo. When you’re older, every hangover is Apocalypse Freaking Now. You’re not making it to brunch. You’re not making it off your floor in a weeping puddle of regret.

10. Do ‘unacceptable’ things to your hair. Dye it. Dread it. Shave only the left side of your head and give a crap if it grows back in a flattering manner (hint: it won’t). There’s no time but now.

11. Sit down, unplug, and read non-fiction. Do this daily. None of your peers are doing it. They’re playing video games and refreshing Facebook and Gmail chatting about nothing in particular. After a month you’ll be smarter than all of them.

12. Take road trips. Sitting in a car for days on end isn’t something your body was designed to do forever.

13. Go to/host theme parties. Once people age out of their 20s, no one’s trying to wear pajamas or Saran Wrap out of the house. The only theme parties that exist after your 20s are ‘Wedding,’ ‘Baby Shower,’ and ‘Funeral.’

http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/21-ways-you-should-take-advantage-of-your-20s/

Cryin' on a suitcase

Don't wait, don't think, don't lock the door behind you
Run and jump into your truck, hit the gas, burn some rubber up, your time's running out
Do it now, Take a shortcut, take a back road, take the shoulder to the exit, Skip the parking, screw the ticket, hit the curb and leave it sitting.
Whatever it takes, You gotta get to that gate

She's cryin' on a suitcase
Sittin' at the airport
Waitin' on the airplane
Bout to take her out of here
They're gonna call her number, She'll sit down by the window, The plane'll leave the runway, And fade into a goodbye sky, better run while you still got time

She's cryin' on a suitcase

Admit it boy you blew it, you really messed it up, You can make excuses if you really want to lose her, It's all on the line, do or die time, Getting on your knees time
Tell her that you want her, need her, love her, gotta have her, Everything good in your life begins and ends with her
Lose your pride while you can, Come on man be a man!!

She's cryin' on a suitcase

I will participating in Lent!

I have decided to participate in Lent.

I may not be of the Catholic religion but I think it’s a great tradition! Sacrifice something pleasant for 40 days. Take this time to look in the mirror, acknowledge my faults, appreciate the small things in my life that I normally would take for granted and, choose a happier, healthier lifestyle.

 I have chosen 3 things to give up, all of which have a great benefit to my health.

 Sacrifice #1 Hot Cheetos.

 If you know me well enough, you will know that I eat AT LEAST 3 bags of these bad boys a week. (Sometimes a bag a day!) When I was in high school I developed a disease called GERD. This makes it so my esophagus doesn’t shut like it should and anything acidy will trigger horrible pain. The doctor warned me that spicy food and anything with carbonation will always cause me pain and will most likely make it worse. I have been good about avoiding soda but Hot Cheetos, I couldn’t give those up. This decision will not only help the pain, it will also go hand in hand with my next sacrifice.

Sacrifice #2 Free Time for Gym Time!

Every day after work I go home and just sit. I pretty much do nothing since I’m not in school this semester and the weather is shitty. I pay for a membership and I’m letting it go to waste. I will give up 6-8 hours of free time each week to go to the gym. It may not seem like much but, with the busy schedule that Tesslynn and I have, this will be totally doable.

AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST

Sacrifice # 3 SMOKING!

 This isn’t just for the 40 days, this will be for good. I want to have a long healthy life style! This may not be considered a enormous sacrifice but it is a change for the better! It’ll make me appreciate the air I breathe, the air others breathe and most importantly the bad air that I am contributing to by smoking that my daughter has to breath. I will be able to keep up with Tesslynn is all her recreational activities in the future and I will feel like a million bucks.

 

Let the Lent begin!

Go get em' Tiger!

If I have learned anything from dating, it is to have a sense of humor. Don’t get upset, mascara is way too damn expensive!

For those girls that go on one date with a man and the very next day (maybe even that night) they are saying their name with the man’s last name at the end, just to see how it to sounds…. CALM THE F*@% DOWN! I can admit, I am guilty of this... more than once.. so I get it, the date was wonderful, and you had so many things in common. You both love concerts, the same bands, your views on relationship are the same, you laughed, you held hands, and you maybe even kissed good night. But seriously, it is one guy out of a million… don’t try and settle down just because he was hot, things went great, and he made you feel like he was interested. It’s a date, that’s what you are supposed to do. It makes it less awkward.
 Dating should not be an interview for marriage, it should be fun and exciting. You should be going on adventurous dates, getting all “sexified” to try and impress this person whom honestly, you may never see again.
Ladies, we have it easy! We just need get on our erotic heels, put on some mascara, pick out some cute panties (dont tell me you dont feel 100 x's hotter when youre rocking a matching bra and panties) rub on some lip gloss and go get your ass some free drinks and dinner. Its awesome!!! Pause the desperate search to meet Mr. Right and as an alternative, just meet new people while enjoying your independence! You're day will come, but until then, celebrate who are.. in this moment.. for you will never be this exact version of you again.

I have decided to take dating a little more seriously. I am going to invest my time and efforts. I am focused a determinded. I very much so want to be in a relationship. Being alone is not hard but I would like to share my life with someone, have a man to witness the next steps in my life. I am looking for something specific.

I am not desperate and will not settle. If I was desperate I would be in relationship already. I am going to choose carefully.

Let the dating begin!!!!

Be ready for some horror stories, some spicy stories and Im sure some good ol boring dinner stories.

??

Questions marks make a question.
Exclamation points show emotion
Periods end a sentence.  We all know You can have a statement and once you throw in that punctuation mark you are saying something totally different.
For example the word "i love you"
It can be "I love you!" Or "I love you."
Or the reason I am writing this blog, "I love you??"

I love you??
I love the way you say my name?
I love the way you hold me?
I love knowing you'll always be there for me?
I love how you make me feel secure??
I love not knowing what our future holds?
I love the friendship we have?
I love knowing that I will be the only one forever and ever as long as we both shall live??
Are any of these things true? Do i honestly love these things.

I know what I do love.
I love hearing my name! But not when you're talking bad about me to your friends, when you're saying it out of anger. I love when someone says it out of kindness or passion.

I love being held! But not when you're holding me here for your own enjoyment. I love when you're holding my tight at night, when I'm crying over spilled milk and you assure me its all going to be okay.
I love knowing I will always have someone to rely on. Not as in "I can always rely on you to disappoint me, hurt my feelings, make me feel as if its always my fault." But in a way i know you will never let me fall, you will always push me to be better and do better.

I love not knowing what the future holds!! Such as on the exciting ride of a roller coaster. The turns it takes and not knowing what is coming up next. But, that doesn't mean I love not knowing what turn my future is going to take or what obstacle is going to come up next.

I love having a friendship with you. The one we used to have, we could talk for hours, we never wanted to go to bed. We never cared what anyone said about each other. We were always so reassuring to one another. But now is as if we try to break each other down more then anyone possibly could, we have no desire to lift each other up. We don't talk, we text. We don't play around, we fight.

I love knowing I will always be the only one forever and ever. The only one that gave you your first child, the only one that gave you your first love, the only one that adored you first and made you my life. I will never be the one you only love, the only one you cherish, the only person you dream of growing old with.

Now do i love you?...... Or do you even love me?

God gave me you!

Ive been a walking heartache Ive made a mess of me.

The person Ive been lately isnt who I want to be.

God gave me you for the ups and downs

God game me you for days of doubt.

I will be everything and more for you, baby! 

You are my rock!!

Mutual Feelings

There is a lack of mutual interest in every serious relationship and every dating relationship that I have been in. 

There is lack of mutual words and actions, lack of mutual values, lack of love, care, trust and respect and lack of mutual feelings and relationship. 

At first I have high hopes for the relationship but then the feelings become no longer mutual and it fails.

The harder I work at an imbalanced and unhealthy relationship the less mutual it becomes.

I always end up feeling rejected, being confused,  and I feel like I have to try and win them over. I feel "not good enough." When this happens, I opt out. Its like raising your hand up and saying "Gimmie Five" and then being left hanging. Ive done it to others numerous times and Im not proud of it.

 I hate it when its done to me, why do I do it?

Real, mutual love doesn’t have ‘buts’. You don’t need someone saying “I love you but…you know my situation” or “I love you but I can’t give you what you want” or even “I love you and we’ll always be friends but…” This is a prime example of what I do.

  I now will make a promise to my self "I Amanda, will not say I love you to another man until that man has my whole heart. I will not cry over a man, I will not chase a man, I will only chase my dreams and cry in joy because I have reached them." 

BE POSITIVE!!!!

Always something to keep in mind is… don’t allow yourself to have a bad day. save it for when you need it.




Of course you’re going to have bad days, we all do. we need this balance in our lives. Especially, after we have these days, we feel better… a little relieved. There are the “stressed school” days, “significant other is pissing you off” days, and of course, “PMSing” days. But the key is… dont let it get to you too much. Kinda like, “choose your battles” but instead, “choose your bad days”.



you know when you’re being overly touchy. so stop it. its very unbecoming.



take a deep breath and know that, just because you stubbed your toe when you got out of bed and there was no toothpaste left for the morning brush, doesn’t mean that the WHOLE day is going to be ruined.



I’m the type of person who always thinks, well, it could be worse, which is usually the last thing people want to hear. My mentality is… I slept in a nice bed, have clothes on back, and ate a good meal today. I lead a very good life... If more people could really start to think this way, life just becomes more enjoyable. It’s also quite infectious. Your good mood gets other people in a good mood. Also, living positively is not living ignorantly. There are “bad things” happening, but deal with them one issue at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself.



Yes, people have there ups and downs, happy and sad moments, and it’s all healthy. But its only healthy if there is a balance of these emotions. This is something I strive for in my life…



So I stubbed my toe when I got out of bed, I rubbed it. There was no toothpaste for the morning brush, I found mouthwash. Work it out… I’m not going to let these things get to me. And BAM… “Hey, its free coffee day at starbucks!”… The day starts to look up.



Constantly appreciate what you have because tomorrow you might not have it.
(Reblogged from youwillneverwastemytime)

Tame and Wild....

What should I do about the wild and the tame?
The wild heart want to be free,
and the tame heart wants to come home.
I want to be held.
I dont want you to come too close.

I want you to schoop me up and bring me home at nights
I dont want to tell you where I am.

I want to keep a place among the rocks where no one can find me.
I want to be with you.
-Jeanette Winterson

Kisses

i think kissing is such a beautiful thing. There is something so powerful about a kiss. Not making out, not open mouth kissing, but just a kiss..a peck, or a smooch, hehe. where your lips are on another persons lips for a min or two, just sitting there as you two breath in and out, your heart sighing. The strong feeling inside filling you up, then when you pull back, you sigh because that kiss was so powerful, and it showed how much love you too have for each other. I love kissing more than anything, i never have to do any sexual thing again as long as i can kiss.I just think it is so passionate, so powerful. The thing about kissing is that everyone does it, whether its on the cheek, for head, chin, lips, eyes, skin, etc, everyone kisses. It’s something that connects people that really love each other. Making out is fun, but i prefer besos (kisses) i can’t explain how i feel about them, even trying to here doesn’t suffice to how i really feel about them. You kiss your little brothers fingers when they get “boo boo’s”, you kiss your mom or dad on the cheek, you kiss your sister or brother on the forehead in a way to say..things will be OK..i love you. It’s such a simple gesture..a kiss..but so powerful and amazing. ah sigh. love kisses. There is so many different ways to kiss someone.




(Reblogged from dandel10ness)

GO AFTER HER. FUCK, DON'T SIT THERE AND WAIT FOR HER TO CALL, GO AFTER HER BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO. IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE, DON'T WAIT FOR THEM TO GIVE YOU A SIGN CAUSE IT MIGHT NEVER COME, DON'T LET PEOPLE HAPPEN TO YOU, DONT LET ME HAPPEN TO YOU, OR HER, SHE NOT A FUCKING TELEVISIONS SHOW OR A TORNADO. THERE ARE PEOPLE I MIGHT HAVE LOVED HAD THEN GOTTEN ON THE AIRPLANE OR RAN DOWN THE STREET AFTER ME OR CALLED ME UP DRUNK AT FOUR IN THE MORNING BECAUSE THE NEED TO TELL ME RIGHT NOW AND BECAUSE THEY CANNOT REGRET THIS AND I ALWAYS THOUGHT ID BE THE ONLY ONE DOING CRAZY THINGS FOR PEOPLE WHO WOULD NEVER GIVE ENOUGH OF A FUCK TO DO IT BACK OR TO ACT LIKE IDIOTS OR BE ENTIRELY VULNERABLE AND HONEST AND MAKING SOME FALL IN THE WITH YOU IS EASY AND FLYING 3000 MILES ON FOUR DAYS NOTICE BECAUSE YOU CAN'T JUST SIT THERE AND DO NOTHING AND BREATHE INTO THE TELEPHONES IS NOT EVERY ONE'S IDEA OF LOVE BUT IT IS THE WAY I CAN RECOGNISE IT BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I DO. GO SCREAM IT AND BE WITH HER IN MEANINGFUL WAYS  BECAUSE THAT IS BEAUTIFUL AND THAT IS GENEROUS AND THAT IS WHAT LOVING SOMEONE IS, THAT IS RAW AND THAT IS UNGUARDED , AND THAT IS ALL THAT IS WORTH ANYTHING, REALLY.

May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art — write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.

But I remain strong! You see me with a smile, you see me holding it all together. I take on the heatache and pain... I will be fine.

I am mad at the world. I get mad over anything and everything. I take everything people say to heart. Im daring the world to push me off a cliff, just to see if I can fly. I feel broken.

Thank you!!!

You’re the only person with the ability to make me smile without even trying. I want you to know that I am so very grateful for you. I’m so grateful for all the wonderful memories we have shared: all the smiles and the laughters. You light up my world and show me things I never dreamed I’d see. Thank you for all that you do for me and all that you have given me. thank you for being you.

Help yourself! Your number one!!

When we begin to help ourselves first, though selfish it may feel, then we can begin to help others. We must first try to heal ourselves in order to realize that we are much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. It is only when we lose part of ourselves it is that we realize what we had. And then sometimes it is too late but that teaches us not to dwell on the past rather to learn from the situation and not have any regrets. Although many say ‘think with your head and not the heart,’ I choose to not listen and just follow my heart. That way no matter what the outcome I know I was true to myself, the other and the situation.

Everyone deserves to be happy

She’s the girl that believes that what comes around goes around. The one that hopes for a better day. The one that won’t give up on you. She’s the girl that’s unlike the rest. The one that spent her days smiling, and her nights crying. She’s the girl that would love to be loved. The one that looks so damn strong, but feels so weak. She’s the girl that picks herself up every time she falls. And she‘ll be okay. She really will. She’s tough…and She deserve to be happy.

Listen....

When I ask you to listen to me,


And you start giving me advice,

You have not done what I asked.



When I ask that you listen to me,

And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way,

You are trampling on my feelings.



When I ask you to listen to me,

And you feel you have to do something to solve my problems,

You have failed me, strange as that may seem.



Listen.

All that I ask is that you listen,

Not talk or do - just hear me.



When you do something for me

That I need to do for myself,

You contribute to my fear and feelings of inadequacy.



But when you accept as a simple fact

That I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational,

Then I can quit trying to convince you

And go about the business

Of understanding what’s behind my feelings.



So, please listen and just hear me

And, if you want to talk,

Wait a minute for your turn - and I’ll listen to you.

-from a tumbler account