To Me, You Are Perfect

I fell in love with you the way I fall asleep - Slowly and then all at once. Not sure where it happen but probably somewhere between the way you made me laugh and the way you made me cry. My walls came down that I spent years building up. I crashed into you fully and never looked back. When I am with you, I feel like a kid again - seeing the world for the first time. Experiencing joy, happiness, being scared and being brave. We are complicated people, you and I. We are stubborn, strong headed and "want our way". We can make almost everything in our life 100x more complicated than it has to be. We argue often and at the most inappropriate times. But our frustration is only fueled by our passion and caring for one another. I always will confront you, I will push you and I will do my very best to keep you grounded and focused. I will not let you slack on your talents or your dreams. I crave the very most from you. I love you, all of you! I love all your edges, all your roughness. Your Imperfections Are Perfect To Me!!

This Elf Doesn't Even Sit On The Shelf...

So this Elf On The Shelf business is tough

Yes yes, I started late in the month and totally spaced the idea until 4 am on Sunday....

"And the Mother Of The Year award goes to... drum roll please... "

Day 1: 4 A.M. on Sunday

This cute little Elf took flour from the cupboard and made a snow angel (Thank you Pinterest) Flour got everywhere- in the wedges of the table, on the floor, all over me and all over the elf. HA-HA Good Freakin Mornin! Where's the Whiskey?

Tess has decided to name her elf Spirit. Cute, right?!

Day 2 - 

Welp Spirit decided to grab a Barbie from Tesslynn's room and all my nail polish and create a Nail Salon in the living room. It was great. The Elf titled it "Sprits Nail Salon" (Yep, you read that right, Sprits!) The Elf then had to go back to Elf school and learn to spell her own name right.

Day 3 - 

Tess was getting up in 5 minutes and Spirits silly little self just woke up too. Oops! I'm sure she was running around this morning trying to think of something extra fun for Tess but was left without many options considering she had five minutes. So to be such a sweet Elf, she got everything out for Tesslynn's cold lunch today. Tess was super stoked! Mom never lets her have cold lunch because I just dont have time.... Go Figure. Running out of time in the morning and the Elf does something that I say I DON'T have time for each day.

Day - I lost count

The elf brought Tesslynn a cute little ginger bread house village for us to do as a family.

These things never look like the box images.

(not my image)

Day - Almost Done

What does the elf do when its running out of Ideas and places to hide in a little 2 bedroom apartment? It gives Tesslynn $5 dollars and suggests she gets someone very special in her life a Christmas gift that she is sure will make them smile. She wants to pick me. CUTE!!

However, I did suggest she pick someone who has maybe had a tough year, someone who needs that extra smile and loving gesture.

She is thinking long and hard about this one... Stay tuned for who it is. I am anxious to know too.

Stay Tuned for more Elf On The Shelf Stories. I'm sure its going to get more entertaining

Open to suggestions as well

To The Guy Who Stopped Appreciating The Girl He loved BY: ANNA BASHEDLY

“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.” ― Jenny Han

It’s not the thought that counts.

You thought it’s enough to think it. You thought it’s enough that deep down, you love her. You thought that being enigmatic was an excuse to stop appreciating her - so you let your past, your pride, your demons, your selfishness, the fact that you’re weak or scared, be a validation for why you stopped fighting for it, making an effort for it.

But this is the girl who you need to appreciate.

Give her your time, all your love, take her on a crazy adventure. Hold her hand, teach her something new. Kiss her face a million times, take her somewhere she’s always wanted to go, dance with her cheek to cheek, spoil her, make her feel special every day.

This is the girl who has changed your life, who has made you a better man. This is the girl who loves all your wrongness, all those parts of you that you hate. The girl who wipes your tears when you speak about your dad, who kisses your edges, who loves all your roughness. Those parts of yourself that you only show to her, she adores them - her love warms them, your imperfections, it changes you.

This is the girl you need to appreciate because you know in your heart you will never give all of you like that to anyone else; no one will love you better. No one will make love to you with as much passion.

A true connection is once in a lifetime.

Extraordinary love is rare, it means something. You need to fight for it, make an effort for it. You think choice means something. You think easiness is good. You think the more chances you have, the better. But, trust me when I say that she is in your heart. Your roots have entwined together, she looks at you as if you’re magic. You might think there’s something better - but it’s all an illusion, it's all bullshit - that's just your ego talking.

This love is extraordinary, you think you want it easy; calm seas and smooth sailing. But the girl you fell for is opinionated and smart, who doesn’t always agree. She is difficult, she requires effort; it will be a challenge, work - but the easy girl will never satisfy you. She will be sweet but uninspiring. She will always leave you wanting more.

Dating her is not the end of your liberty - it’s the beginning of it.

She argues with you because she cares. She craves more from you - she has opinions and big dreams for the future. She never lets you get away with slacking on your talents, and no matter how much she loves you, eventually she will leave if you stop putting in effort.

Because she knows what you have, and she will never put up with not getting everything she deserves.

Don’t risk losing the best thing you ever had.

Whatever you do, don’t let her get away. It may be difficult at times - she’ll drive you crazy, she’ll frustrate the hell out of you. But she will never leave you uninspired or unsatisfied. Although she will leave if you keep taking advantage of her.

You think that no matter what you do, she will always be there because she loves you. But remember that you fell for the girl who isn't easy — as in, she won't just "go with the flow.” She knows her worth. She is the girl who will not settle for someone who doesn't put her first.

You have a love that builds, that makes your soul alive. Don't let this love get discarded for the next hit. Don't lose this love because of your pride, fears, ego or selfish ways. Because someone will value how special she is - someone will put in the effort it takes to be with her.

Wake up and realize she's worth fighting for. Because if you don't, you are the one who will suffer the most.

BY: ANNA BASHEDLY

(Not written by myself) Credits to Anna Bashedly

Its Broken!

“Being brokenhearted is like having broken ribs. On the outside it looks like nothing’s wrong, but every breath hurts.”
― Greg Behrendt, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Break-Up Buddy

Bad Habits Die Hard

You glare at me with these disapproving eyes of disgust while I inhale another puff.
You question why I continue to go back to that bad ol habit after kicking it so many times,
specially if I know its no good for me.
My response as I exhale that sweet vapor "Same reason I keep coming back to you, darlin."